Top Success Mistakes
Why You're Not Getting What You Really Want
Ever feel like you're spinning your wheels, not getting what it is you really want? If you've been trying to achieve your goals with little or no success, it may be due to one of the following common success mistakes.
You Haven’t Defined It
If you don’t know what success means to you, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to achieve. Success can be defined as achieving a desired outcome. What specifically is it that you want? If you want money, how much do you want? What does a successful career look like to you? What is your ideal lifestyle?
Believe it or not, a great majority of people self-sabotage their own efforts to become successful. Why? Although people may consciously strive for success, their inner beliefs keep them from succeeding. Many people are subconsciously afraid to succeed. The “writing on their walls” may tell them that they do not deserve success. There may be safety issues or secondary gain that cause self-sabotage.
Whether you never seem to get around to it, or it just seems like too much work, laziness is really just another form of fear. All in all, you’ve fallen short of commitment and may be seeking solace through avoidance behavior.
You Make Excuses
What are the excuses you have for not succeeding?
- Not enough money
- Not enough time
- I don't know how
- It's too hard
- I'm too tired
- I don't have the right
- My spouse/friend/boss...
When we really look closely at our excuses, we find they are not valid. It doesn’t matter which excuse we use – they all have one thing in common – they are simply not true! What is it that you are trying to avoid? Why are you avoiding it? By looking closely at the motivation behind your excuses you can begin to work with the core issues that keep you from succeeding.
Non-Action & Faulty Thinking
What is non-action? Non-action is the practice of choosing not to take action, to avoid the responsibility of handling your own life. In other words, non-action is a way of not taking the lead in your own life. We practice non-action when we blame others for our problems. Non-action is also called external locus of control. This is the result of allowing other people and external situations to guide our thoughts and actions, instead of opening up to the power of making our own choices in regard to our thoughts and actions. Non-action is a form of faulty thinking. Instead of going after success, we expect success to come to us.
Faulty thinking occurs when we operate from a set of false assumptions or beliefs that we have come to accept as truth. These false assumptions and beliefs are the sum result of our life experiences – the “writing on our walls.” They function as an “automatic map” of sorts – an unconscious set of rules for handling people and situations based on our perspective of “how the world works.” Faulty thinking is largely an unconscious process, and left unchallenged it will inevitably cause us to fall short of our goals!
Identifying success mistakes is crucial to achieving goals quickly and efficiently.
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